Why Have a Meditator Life Partner?

Spending the rest of your life with another person can be a joyous and fulfilling experience provided you pick someone with whom you are compatible.  Looking for and finding a life partner is like getting ready for an adventure of a lifetime and not always knowing where it may lead. Having compassion as a guide map, meditation as a compass, and love as a light to show the way can help.

Discovering the regular match points like feelings for each other, exploring each other’s ways of living and like and dislikes, turn ons and offs, and talents and quirks usually take a toll on us, and leaves us hanging in the hugest dilemma of “To Do or Not To DO” for a time that seems longer than eternity!

But believe you me, you can easily survive through this, with a smile and make the wisest choice for you and your partner if you share this common trait; Meditation! In this article we will talk about why Meditation should be an essential trait to seek in your partner and how it can make your relationship harmonious.

Being Friends First!

Meditation gives you deep relaxation and contentment from within. When you are relaxed and content in your own life, you become sensitive to others’ needs. Friendship is all about being sensitive to each other’s needs. When we meditate, we rest in our nature and silence the unrest within.  Meditation is a return to silence, where two people can rest in their nature and nurture peacefulness.

As good friends, Meditation allows you to be on the same wavelength at the same time in supports you in your own individual quest.

Just Being together at Peace!

Meditation is a process of deeper cleansing. It is a great stress booster and reduces your need to use words to resolve conflict or to simple create some noise. When two individuals share quality time meditating, unsaid thoughts and unexpressed emotions are silenced and peace dawns.  Majority of conflicting situation and negative emotions can be dealt with by just being! Time is the best healer.

Appreciating Differences!

How often have you heard the expression, “opposites attract”? Like yin and yang, sweet and sour, winter and summer, one simply complements the other. Sitting in meditation once or twice a day can give you the sensitivity to enjoy the oppositeness!

Tolerating conflicts & Enjoying a Laugh!

A Meditating mind is usually very tolerant. Being established in positivity and calm in yourself one tends to become tolerant and accepting of small conflicts in everyday life. Enjoy the Happy space within has become your nature and everyday issues are just tiny pebbles in your stride which are worth a good laugh! Unexpected delays, problems and difficulties are now dealt with wisely, together as a couple even lots of laughter!

Meditation helps us respond to conflict with a sense of humor. Aha, the switch! Becoming more relaxed and at ease, through meditation, we can realize that this “switch” comes from somewhere within.

Recognizing From the Heart!

 “The heart knows to recognize. You cannot recognize your life partner, your guru, from the outside appearance, but through your heart. Something happens in your heart, you feel in your heart that he is honest and good, he belongs to me. So, become peaceful,” says Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.

Effective Communication!

Good Communication is the essence of Great Relationships! Meditation connects you back to your natural state, your very existence. With a sense of peace that is getting strengthened by your meditation practice every day, your naturalness comes through in your expressions. Communication spontaneously rises from the heart. Authentic sharing begins and it takes more than just baseless words and expressions said in a moment of stress to shake your bond of love and togetherness!

The Sensitive “US”!

Over attention and involvement and even expression can suffocate a sane relationship. Love needs some space to grow and blossom fully. Meditation makes you sensitive to the space that you need for yourself and your partner co-exist in peace and love. With that sensitivity, clashes are less likely to happen.

Make Your Home Meditation Friendly. Here’s How!

* Make a Meditation corner at home with good lighting and lots of fresh air together!
* Just as you allow quiet time for yourself each day, respect quiet time for your partner
* Support one another by allowing each other to attend meditation retreats or even better take retreats together!
* Know that sitting in silent meditation rejuvenates your capacity to care for others

Happy Human’s Day!

“We’ve chosen the path to Equality, don’t let them turn us around.”.. ;-))

The Bible says, “Eve was created from a bone taken out of the rib-cage of Adam…” and according to Hindu Mythology, both Manu and Shatrupa emerged on their own from the body of Brahma thus, there is an Equality of Sexes…and hence all my life, I have heard my teachers and parents teach me that “God made it a point not to create woman from the bones of the feet of Adam, or from any tissue on his head”…thus interpreting…that God did not want women to be dominated by men nor did HE want women to be above men…instead, he created Shatrupa or Eve in equality or parallel to Manu or Adam…to be by his side and walk equally with him….side by side.

It’s that day of the year again, where we count and recount, collect and recollect all sacrifices, efforts, patience and fortitude, the women in our life have put in forming us. Is that what we are saluting??? Or are we just creating an inequality ourselves, by booing and shooing the men thus creating an automatic salutation! Our celebration of womanhood in most cases, if not all, is done by comparing the successes and achievements with the opposite gender. Why? Is that really “healthy competition”, or are we trying to bridge the gap or is it creating an even bigger rift?

Me thinks this complete gender discourse should not be about ascertaining equality or inequality. Women are just special…Like Mother Nature…there’s no beating that. Period. And Men, they are the best thing that could ever happen to us…If a woman is a Dream, the Man is the Power to make it come true.. or vice versa..Their completeness rests in their co-existence.

A very feminist friend of mine once remarked, “some of us women are becoming the men we wanted to marry”……women, do think about this one…I am sure you will strike a chord ….and Men, see where we are getting to?? The sooner we realise and understand the essence, meaning and reasons of our creation the better it would be…Our Future lies not in fighting for Equality, it rests in understanding and celebrating our differences.

So the battle of the sexes continues, the humour continues and the inequality (in good humour)…continues too.

To all my male buddies….try to be good to her, all days of your life…forget treating her equally, just treat her real. Happy human’s day.

To all the women in my life..who’ve loved me, held me, inspired me, dealt with me, nurtured me, pampered me, coaxed me and criticised me, encouraged me and driven me, all those who’ve prayed for me and stood by me…to all those women….!! Happy woman’s day!!!

Btw.. the International Men’s day is celebrated on the 19 Nov…Thank your stars, men are bad with dates!  :p !!